The Good and the Bad...

Yup, this early on I already have things to gripe about.

The Good:
The weight is coming off so fast already!! I have already dropped 20 lbs since surgery day! It's been effortless so far.  I am hardly ever hungry, and when I am, I can only eat about 5 bites of something before I feel like I am stuffed like a Thanksgiving turkey. Right now I'm on the soft/mushy foods, so cottage cheese, refried beans, and canned tuna are on my menu right now.  My clothes are fitting a lot looser and are much more comfortable, I don't feel like I am stuffed into a sausage casing anymore.  I'm starting to feel a lot better.  I came back to work yesterday and I made it through the whole day, but I was exhausted by the time I got home.  Everyday I feel better and a little more energy comes back.  I had a post-op check up with the Dr. and said everything is great and I am doing everything right.

The Bad:
The back handed compliments have begun.  I'm not sure most people really have enough tact to talk to a person who has struggled with weight and body image issues all their lives. From some people, some close to me and some that hardly know me, have said the following, "You'll be so pretty when you get to your goal weight.", "You're going to be so hot!", "You're going to get all the guys now!"  SERIOUSLY?! How much more insulting can that get? You're basically telling me I'm not hot, or pretty, and I couldn't get a man if my life depended on it! One of these comments came from my well-meaning grandmother, and I had to ask her politely not to say that to me anymore because it hurts me.  I am hot, I am pretty, and I can get a man just fine (I just don't want the ones that I've gotten, lol). I am perfectly happy with myself now.  This decision was not about being pretty, it's about being being healthy, and being able to do the things that I can't with all this weight holding me down. Yes, my thinner appearnce will be a plus, but that's not what makes me beautiful. Just a word of advice to people out there, please don't say stuff like this to people.  Everyone, EVERYONE, is beautiful. Even though they may not be your particular "cup of tea", they are still beautiful to someone, or to themselves, or both. Don't demean their opinions of themselves by telling them they will be beautiful if _____.  It's insulting and it's hurtful.  I know that the people who have said this to me didn't mean harm, but it was hurtful.  Please just take a moment to think about what you say before it comes out of your mouth!